pls help game crash

[pls help game crash]

Hey im new here but i know aion like my pocket ( beta player) now i switched to private server for my first time because the "new aion" is dogsh**.
my problem is... gamecrashes lvl 1-10 / 12 gamecrashes .. lvl 1-3 was crazy to.... every time i see a new "city" like ishalgen or altgrad instant gamecrash
now im in altgrad for the first time whith my new char (teleport to altgrad) and boooom again instant gamecrash...
i start the game again, log in again, hit my char and my game loads into altgrad 3seconds later gamecrash -.-

now... i cant play anymore because of this crashes.. everytime i log into my char.. gamecrash whithout an error or something
in the character screen creation my screen was totally black transparent like a shadow or something.. 
im up to date whith all updates, no anti virus, no win defender or something, uac is off, i have tryt whith run as admin and normal
i changed all the settings to standard back and changend my window size in all mods ..  directx, netframework and this stuff is up to date and fresh also
now i cant "check" the game some big error comes to the screen then i restart my pc and i click on check again.. seems fine now.. 10mins later the big error comes again -.-
every time i change the audio to low and music in background and what not its not saved..
idk i give up now to fix this 4 myself... but what is better then a text?! a video that show my bug. cant login anymore -->  pls help me !!!!  

win10 / 1909 version uptodate
rtx 2080 super uptodate
asus rog strix mboard uptodate
i7 8700k overclocked 4,1 -5,1ghz
installed on a m2 ssd and before on my normal ssd same shit happens
backgroundprogramms: ts3, discord, opera